Touching Tuesday: The Gift of Friendship


Do you know what it is to walk into a room and not know anyone?

Not even a single soul. It’s a pretty weird, and uncomfortable feeling. Now imagine going through life like that, with not a single friend.

Just alone.

Friends are necessary in life. Having someone to call a friend is a blessing. Being a friend to someone is a gift. We don’t realize how much we need a friend until we don’t have one. Family is great. However, sometimes you just desire someone who can relate to you, and not be necessarily “related to you”. The truth is sometimes family lets us down, and our friendships will be the saving grace we need in though times.

I desire to be a good friend.

Up until recently, I can honestly say I did not have much friends. I had my family, and my associates. I kept up a barrier between me and anyone that was not family of some sort. Perhaps, trust issues, or perhaps I wanted to keep this veneer front of perfection up. I didn’t want outsiders to come too close and see that my simple life was actually a hot mess. But then, my entire world turned upside down. I found myself, by myself. Sure I had my close family members. But at some point you don’t want to become a burden to your family. Then, I found myself in the presence of people willing to hear my story, and willing to be a shoulder to lean and cry on. That was something I was not used to. It was amazing. Like a self cleansing therapy. What’s more important, is that I knew those people were not judging me. They listened with a open heart. Looking back I don’t know where I would have been without the help of friends. The closer I let my friends in, the more I realized we all had our own common share of “mess” going on in our lives. I listened to their burdens, and was their shoulder in times of need. Because of that I now know more than ever that friendship is a give and take. Sometimes you will give love, and times you just have to be vulnerable enough to take the love.

Jesus had a few  friendships. However, one of my favorites is the one he had with Mary Magdalena. It was an uncommon friendship. However, we often find our best and deepest friendships in uncommon connections. The very thing that tends to separate us, is often the tread that keeps us connected.

I encourage anyone and everyone that is blessed enough to have a true friend, to hold on to that friendship. Be kind to that friendship, and be a server in that friendship. Nourish it and love on it to ensure it grows into a good tree that may enhance the garden that is your life.

Be blessed, be encouraged.